Eliminate 80% of author angst with these two things

A lot of energy is wasted — days, weeks, even years out the airlock — when an author’s head isn’t in the game. The days we spend wishing we were further along in our journey. The weeks we procrastinate, dreading failure (or success). The months that depression about our lot in life… about the value of our writing… about the amount of time we have… about how well other people are doing… (the list of reasons goes on) gets us down and keep our fingers from the keys. Wasted.

Have you felt it? Some form of angst over your writing life? This malady often strikes when we begin to work on marketing ourselves and our work. We are most vulnerable when we are comparing where (or who) we want to be with where (or who) we are.

We all want to be Superman

Superman: Man of Steel

(Unless we can be Batman. Then we all want to be Batman… Just kidding. You don’t have to like Superman or Batman to get what I’m saying. Substitute your favorite superhero in this spot.)

There are many reasons we feel author angst (call it frustration, anxiety, anger, fear, dissatisfaction or whatever flavor most often assaults you), but there’s one I see crop up again and again. It has to do with not liking where we are and who we are in a given moment.

We want to be on top of the world. Signing that publishing contract. Selling those hundreds of books a month. Dominating that best-seller list. Or maybe our goals are smaller, but they are still ambitious. We want to be writing those thousands of words a day, finishing that first draft within a few months.

But then life happens

And instead of being where we want to be, we are here. Working that day job (or two). Homeschooling the kids. Suffering with chronic fatigue or pain. Squeezing out a mere couple hundred words a day, if that. Reaching the end of the work day without enough energy to do more than sit on the couch and watch a TV show before falling into bed. Our creativity ebbs low, and time goes by, and we still only have — what? That same unfinished draft. That same, single published work. Or those same ten books, still only making one or two sales a month.

Meanwhile, it seems the world passes us by.

Time to tell yourself a story

Supporting characters: Samwise and Obi-Wan Kenobi

What if it’s okay that you’re not Superman right now? What if right now, you need to be Samwise, or Obi-Wan? Maybe right now is the marshes, a time of slogging through mud and dealing with the ghosts lurking in their depths. Maybe right now is holding that ground, distracting Vader so those you are protecting can become what they need to become. Maybe you are Luke on Dagobah and it’s time to learn and practice your skills.

When you find yourself embraced by angst over your writing journey, there is a powerful one-two punch that I find dissipates that attack nearly every time.

  1. Acceptance: Find the beauty in where you are.
  2. Hope: Find the motivation to move forward.

“Nobody wants my story!” If you have an impressive collection of rejections, don’t let it get you down. Read the accounts of now-famous authors about their early days. Even some of the best writers were rejected (here’s a list of 50 if those other two articles weren’t enough). Have faith in what you’re doing and just keep writing.

“I’m not getting anywhere.” Well, you certainly won’t get anywhere with that attitude. The truth is that if you keep putting one foot in front of another (however slowly) you will move forward. Re-center on why you’re writing. Re-discover the joy of it. And when you feel like giving up, check out the many excellent tips out there from this simple Google search. Even if you’re in the Swamps of Sadness, don’t let the sadness get to you. But if it does, I hope that (like Atreyu in The Neverending Story), you make friends along your journey who can pull you out when you’re going under.

“If I keep going at this rate, I’ll be 102 before I finish this series.” Sounds like you need to make a tough call. Either walk away from it or keep going. And if you keep going, stay hopeful: don’t wear yourself out, but look for those opportunities to make more time for your writing. Take them when they come. Forgive yourself when you miss them. And maybe you need to make a more aggressive change: start looking for a new job, one that would give you more time or leave you less exhausted. Also ask yourself, “Is this a season of life?” You may have children to attend to, and waiting until they are grown may feel like forever. But guess what? There are many top authors who didn’t start writing until later in life. Be Obi-Wan for your children. It’s worth it.

“I don’t even have enough finished work to begin building a fanbase.” Sure, the most effective marketing tactics work best for authors with a bigger body of work. First of all, you can be thankful that during this season of your writing career (yes, go ahead and call it a career!) your best approach is to put 90+% of your energy into the thing you love best: writing. You heard me: If you don’t have 3-5 stories already published, the best thing you can do is WRITE. Ignore marketing and just write! Or…. you actually can start building your fanbase before you’ve published a bunch of novels. We’ve touched a little on that in our past Author Branding lessons, and there’s more to come. But the good news is that you don’t have to. Just write.

“I’m a nobody.” Nobody is a nobody. You are amazing. You are a shining star in this universe of spinning galaxies, and if you don’t know that yet, you need to find the kinds of friends who will notice it and tell you as often as you need to hear it. As time goes on, I hope this #SpecFicCollective community will become that kind of place. A place where you can find others who are strange like you, with that weird mix of [whatever you are] or at least a mix that is compatible with you. Like peanut butter and chocolate. Like apples and cinnamon. Like pepperjack cheese. Hmmm, I must be hungry.

What’s your story?

This article is already 1,000 words long. Too long. And I know I didn’t cover all the reasons authors have ever been stuck in a rut. Is there some fear or angst that has been hounding you lately? Share it below in the comments. If you can, try to find a way of looking at it that gives you hope. If that’s impossible, just share the problem. Often an outside perspective can help.

Sometimes when even hope feels out of reach, the most important thing you can do is be willing to hope. Even when you feel stuck. I will never forget Neil Gaiman’s Sandman tale of A Hope in Hell. I hope you won’t either. Here’s the one-minute-twenty-seconds version of the story:

I say it a lot here, because I believe we need to hear it a lot: “Never give up, never surrender!” And when you start angsting against where you’re at, remember to tell yourself a story. A story that helps you accept where you are and gives you hope for future change. A story that reminds you that you are a hero, right where you are. The hero of your story.

Author: #SpecFicCollective

Teddi Deppner is an indie author, founder of the #SpecFicCollective and Associate Acquisitions Editor at Splickety Pub Group. You can connect with her on Twitter @teddideppner or on her Facebook page.

10 thoughts on “Eliminate 80% of author angst with these two things”

  1. Here’s another article that makes a related point:

    How to Instantly Change Your Mind About Book Marketing

    It says writers who have trouble marketing have three options:

    1) Don’t bother marketing, and continue writing as a hobby, without ever getting read beyond a small circle of friends and family

    2) Drastically change your personality so that you’re reinvented as a brash, extroverted marketing machine

    3) Change the way you think about marketing so it suits who you actually are.

    Of course, they advocate #3 — and have some great points to make about it. Worth the read.

    1. I really like the idea of finding a tactic to stick to. Now that the Odyssey of 2015 is over, perhaps I can get back to being consistent with short story publishing – which will also help with the “body of work” and a story’s best marketing being the one that came before it. Social media posting is fun too, but takes a lot of time and my approach needs tweaking before it will have any results. Getting there – onward & upward!

      1. I agree, Grace. That part of the article resonated for me, too. We can’t do EVERYTHING, at least not usually and not all at once.

        Pick something and be consistent at it (which goes with what Zachary said in his comment about consistency, taking at least one step forward every day).

  2. Love this so much. Great words of advice and encouragement.

    One thing that’s been bothering me lately is lack of time. Or more accurately, *perceived* lack of time. Life. Blogging. Family responsibilities. Schoolwork. Social media. ALL THE THINGS.

    What I realized, however, is that this won’t change. I’m not going to wake up one day and have hours upon hours to do nothing but devote myself to my stories. If anything, I’ll become busier as time goes. Thinking about it from that perspective has made me realize that I need to make the time, even if only in small chunks, so that I can begin to build steam and make forward progress.

    Does that always mean working on my novels? Not necessarily. As long as I’m doing something every day to advance my writing “career,” it’s a win.

    1. This is a KEY insight you’ve gained, Zachary. “As long as I’m doing something every day to advance my writing ‘career,’ it’s a win.”

      During some seasons of life, it might even be “something every week” instead of every day. But the point is that no forward progress is to be sneered at. And consistency is more important than almost anything else.

      >>> Forward motion.
      >>> Consistency.

      That’s how it’s done. Mix in a little strategic big-picture thinking every so often and a dash of eternal optimism, and you’ve got a rocket to the stars.

      Thanks for chiming in, Zachary!

  3. Yes to all of this.
    Especially being Obi-Wan to my padawan. I write for her. But living this life with her is infinitely more important, despite my anxious heart’s desires to be as productive as my peers during this time.
    Besides, who wouldn’t want to be Sir Alec Guinness?
    Thanks for this, Teddi.

    1. You’re so very welcome, Amy! Love seeing you here. It’s so easy, as creatives, to feel that without constant production we are nothing. To feel that without something new to share with our fellow creatives, we are lacking. It’s a tough road, and for those who aren’t able to put out something new on a frequent basis, it’s vital to collect friends and followers who understand and support our choices.

      Which means that it’s also important that we share our choices. Live out loud, so to speak. Talk about the things that matter to us in a way that is relatable to our followers, in a way that allows them to cheer us and applaud us because they recognize that we’re doing what they want to do, too: to live a truly abundant, healthy life full of what really matters.

      If we can find ways to include our followers in that, it makes a difference. Don’t just disappear from social media, but give people something to remember us by while we’re gone. “Ah, yes! She has a precious padawan. The mentoring she’s doing now is going to raise a strong woman who will be a force for good in this fight against the Empire!”

      Heh heh. Or whatever works for you. 🙂

      P.S. I really like your website layout. Nice choice!

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